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No Excuse
For Abuse

Whether you’re looking for relevant information, need a place to share your personal experiences, or simply want to open your heart and mind to help those in need, then My Narcissistic Victims Syndrome is the right place to be.

What Does Narcissism
Look Like? Abuse 
has many faces.

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Who This Site is For...

You or someone you care about who is struggling to cope with an issue, My Narcissistic Victims Syndrome is ready to help. We are here to help countless individuals navigate and overcome challenging situations.

 

Our Mental Health Support Group members are kind, patient, and open-minded with the experience, knowledge, and tools to help you cope with what you’re going through. We all must walk our own paths through life, but we don’t have to do it alone. We’re here to help, all you have to do is reach out.

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3 Core Resources & Insights

The following is a collection of carefully curated blog articles and resources below that you may find helpful as you navigate a difficult journey. We hope you will find solace in what we’ve provided. If you have comments or questions, please get in touch.  

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If your are having a rough time and need to talk to someone call:

 

Suicide Hotline

1-800-799-7033

 

National Domestic

Violence Hotline

1-800-799-SAFE (7233)

 Call or Text to 988 or 88788

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Lebanon County Crisis

717-274-3363

1-800-273-(TALK) 8255

TEXT 74174

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2-Key Symptoms of Narcissism Victims

Narcissistic Victim Syndrome manifests in various ways, including:

 

  1. Emotional trauma: Victims experience intense feelings of shame, guilt, and worthlessness as a result of the narcissist's constant criticism and invalidation.
     

  2. Cognitive dissonance: Victims may struggle to reconcile the narcissist's charming facade with their abusive behavior, leading to confusion and inner turmoil.
     

  3. Hypervigilance: Victims are constantly on edge, anticipating the next outburst or manipulation from the narcissist.
     

  4. Isolation: Narcissists often isolate their victims from friends and family, leaving them feeling isolated and alone.
     

  5. Physical symptoms: Chronic stress and anxiety associated with NVS can manifest in physical symptoms such as headaches, insomnia, and digestive issues.

3-Emotions

Dealing with narcissistic abuse can lead to a wide range of intense and complex emotions. These emotions often stem from the manipulation, gaslighting, and emotional exploitation that narcissistic individuals typically engage in. Here are some common feelings people experience when dealing with narcissistic abuse:​​

1. Confusion: Narcissists often distort reality, causing you to question your perceptions, memory, and sense of self. This can leave you feeling disoriented and unsure of what's true, a phenomenon known as gaslighting. 2. Self-Doubt: Narcissists tend to undermine your self-esteem, making you feel inadequate or incapable. Over time, this can erode your confidence and cause you to doubt your worth. 3. Guilt and Shame: Narcissists often use guilt as a tool for control, making you feel responsible for their behavior or the state of the relationship. This manipulation can lead to deep feelings of shame and an overwhelming sense of responsibility. 4. Isolation: Narcissistic abuse can isolate you from friends, family, or support networks, either through direct manipulation or by creating a toxic environment that makes it hard to maintain relationships. This isolation intensifies feelings of loneliness and helplessness. 5. Anger and Resentment: Constant emotional manipulation can foster deep anger and resentment. It’s common to feel furious about how you're being treated, but narcissists often invalidate or dismiss your feelings, leaving you frustrated. 6. Sadness and Hopelessness: The emotional toll of narcissistic abuse can lead to profound sadness and despair. You may feel like there is no way out or that the situation will never improve. 7. Fear and Anxiety: Narcissists can instill a constant sense of fear, often making you worry about their unpredictable reactions or future threats. Anxiety can also arise from the instability and emotional turmoil in the relationship. 8. Helplessness: Narcissists often maintain power over their victims, leading to feelings of helplessness. You may feel stuck in the relationship or unable to break free from the cycle of abuse. 9. Relief (When It Ends): If you're able to break free from a narcissistic relationship, you may experience a sense of relief. However, this relief can be mixed with grief or guilt, as the narcissist may continue to manipulate you even after the relationship ends. 10. Numbness: Over time, the emotional toll of narcissistic abuse can cause you to feel emotionally numb or disconnected from your feelings. This can be a protective mechanism that your mind adopts to cope with ongoing trauma. The emotional impact of narcissistic abuse is deep and can affect every aspect of your life. It’s important to seek support from trusted individuals or professionals if you are experiencing this type of abuse.

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MyStory

My Story

My name is Beverly Adams

I have been dealing with "NARCISSTIC ABUSE" all of my life. I had a bi-polar narcissistic mother who abused me verbally, emotionally, mentally and physically. She was cruel to say the least. She was very cold and unfeeling. Everything had to be about her or she didn't care. When I was born I was crippled. Then at the age of 5 I had epilepsy  I felt she couldn't love me because I was broken. I grew up in a very violent home. My dad at times would hit my mom and drink a lot. You never knew which one of them would go off.

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My second husband was also a bi-polar narcissist. He was very evil to me. He would gaslight, call me derogatory names, downgrade, criticize me, he was very controlling and manipulative.

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I have been in therapy for 8 years and I am doing well. But some days I still struggle with feelings that I am not worthy. But I know now that, that is a lie. I am worthy of  love, compassion and I deserve a great life. I am working on that journey right now. It is a process but I am always moving forward to the life I want and deserve.

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If any of this resonates with you and you want to heal from narcissistic abuse I encourage you to come on this journey with me and we can support each other through the pain, anger, hurt, tears and abuse.

I know your struggles and understand how you feel. 

I AM NOT a therapist or licensed to practice therapy.

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I am a SURVIVOR and I understand what you go through and want to help you to heal.

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Your Stories

After 15 years of marriage and frustration, I learned about narcissist behavior. I had a solver type personality and deeply sympathized with my mates childhood trauma. I believed my LOVE could heal him. But my love didn't stop his abuse. Some physical but mostly mental labyrinths, him posing as a "nice guy" around friends and family but blamed me for everything wrong in his life along with his relentless paranoia. No, his trauma was NOT HIS fault. But how he treated me was his CHOICE. Will he change? I hope so. But I didn't to be the punching bag until then. I don't hate him instead, I value me.

Beth H., NY

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